FINDING YOUR PERSON — YOUR DIVINE MATCH
Sean was, is, and will always be the love of my life. And I know I was the love of his. He said it, he showed it, he made me feel it every single day.
He could be in a work meeting with anyone, and I’d walk by and hear him talking about his beautiful wife — that’s me, the lucky girl.
I could only feel love for him. Recently, I told Charlie that I would never marry again, and he said, “Mom, you can marry again, but your favorite husband will always be Dad.” This six-year-old knows it, I know it, and Sean knew it — my love for him is infinite.
After I met Sean, I dedicated my life to making him happy. Whatever he wanted, I wanted. We lived a truly happy life together. It wasn’t a dream house, it was a real dream life. Loving each other and loving our kids. He was extraordinary, the kind of person who doesn’t just fall out of the sky, you know?
There’s a Kanye West song that says:
“Beautiful, big-titty, butt-naked women just don't fall out the sky, you know?”
And Sean would always sing it to me — quoting that line and telling the boys, “Girls like Mom don’t fall out of the sky, you know?” Then he’d add, “Don’t settle in relationships that are just okay. Don’t be with people who don’t make you happy or see the best in you. Don’t let anyone drain your energy.”
He used to share examples of relationships where he had felt drained and would tell the boys, “Run away from those people. Don’t even try. Don’t waste your time or your life there. Go after your Mariel.”
Our love was real, an extraordinary, once-in-a-lifetime kind of love. I see so many relationships around me and feel so lucky, even after losing him, because what we had was rare. It’s not easy to find.
But I also want to say this: I was married once before Sean. That person wasn’t my person. Getting divorced was a nightmare, but it was absolutely worth it. Sean used to say he was so grateful that I got divorced, that he was lucky to find me single, waiting for him.
Sometimes, you need to clear your energy. Get away from the wrong person, not because they’re bad, but because they’re not the right one for you. You have to clear your way, your life, and your heart to be ready for the person who was born for you, your divine match.
Sean once sent me a message after watching a reel about choosing the right partner energetically. The guy talked about how our internal world mirrors our external one — as within, so without; as above, so below — and how this shows up in relationships.
He said: Ask yourself,
“Has my life gotten better or worse since I’ve been with this person?”
If one person’s life improves while the other’s gets worse, that’s an energy-draining relationship. But if both partners grow, feel lighter, happier, more alive — you’ve found your divine match.
Sean wrote to me after seeing that:
“Mi amor, I just wanted you to know that my life has gotten infinitely BETTER in ALL WAYS since the first day we met — and it’s been getting better and better with every passing day. You are my love, and you are my LIFE. ❤️”
That’s what you need to look for.
Please, do yourself a favor — don’t let anyone drain your energy or waste your life.
